Author- Shaina Chepulis, Parent Educator at Thrive
Everyone has their own style of dealing with external changes and the internal feelings that can be stirred up when those changes occur. There are varied levels of change in life, from easy ones to spot — new sibling, new living situations, starting school — to the often overlooked ones like a vacation, change in childcare provider, change in bedtime or the addition of something to the routine. All can be made easier with some simple strategies.
Talk about what to expect. May sound like: “At your new school they have a cool playground.” or “We go to bed when the streetlights go on.”
Give children a signal that it’s soon time to stop what they are doing. May sound like: “We will be leaving for swimming in five minutes– please make sure you’re ready.”
Find ways for kids to help in the transition. May look like this: helping pack a box or two for the new house, picking where to put something, packing lunch for school or picking up toys before leaving.
Find a routine, knowing that it’s a work in progress. May look like this: Getting up, breakfast, dressing, preparing to leave the house or starting to play, etc.
Allow your child time to adjust to the changes. May look like this: spending extra time with child at good-byes, talking about the changes that will happen, understanding that you may repeat the fact several time before they understand.
“Nothing is secure but life, transitions, and the energizing spirit.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson