One of the hardest parts of parenting is getting our kids to listen to us, and then, of course, getting them to do what we ask. If you remember to use a few important skills this job will be much easier for you.
- Think Before You Speak. You ask your kids to clean up the family room, then allow the mess to remain for the night. You threaten to cancel your child’s party if he sasses you again. He does, but you don’t. All these scenes create kids who become “Parent Deaf”. Instead, take a minute to think before you issue a command, and you words will become more accurate.
- Be Very Specific. Don’t “hint” at what you want your child to do: ” It would be nice if you…” Don’t make an incomplete request: “Get ready to go.” Don’t be vague: “You know better…” Instead be clear and specific. State your requests in a way that will not be misunderstood or ignored.
- Control Your Emotions. Kids often key in on your anger, but miss the point of your words. Kids will focus on your emotion, and dismiss your words. Instead, keep your voice even and calm, and your words clear and specific to get better results.
- Get Up Close and Personal. While it is easier to yell from two rooms away it is much less effective. Children respond better to a parent that is facing them eye-to-eye. In addition when you are standing close you can determine if your child is paying attention to you.
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